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foolish way of boasting of the bargains they make, those who pretend to buy the cheapest will be the niost readily believed; so that, do the best you can, you will be able to give but very indifferent satisfaction. Buy, therefore, for your master and mistress as you would for yourself; and whatever money remains, immediately on your return de- , liver it to the owner, - Be not generous at the expense of your master's and mistress's property, and your own honesty. Give not any thing away without their consent. When you find there is any thing to spare, and that it is in danger of being spoiled if kept longer, it is commendable in you to ask leave to dispose of it while fit for use. If such perarission is refused, you have nothing to answer for on that account; but you must not give away the least morsel without the approba tion of those to whom it belongs. Be carefol also not to make any waste, for that is a crine of a much deeper die tban is imagined by those who are guilty of it; and seldom goes without its punishment, by the severe want of that which they have so lavishly desiroyed. · Never speak in a disrespectful manner of your master or mistress, nor listen to any idle stories related by others to their prejudice. Always vindicate their reputations from any open aspersions or malicious insinuations. Mention not their names in a familiar manner yourself, nor suffer other's to speak of them with contempt. As far as you can, magnify their virtues; and what failings they may have, shadow thein over as much as possible. When this is known, it will not only endear you to them, but also gain you the es teem of those who hear you talk; for, though many people have the ill nature to be pleased with picking out what they can to the prejudice of their neighbours, yet none in their hearts approve of the person who makes the report. It is natural, at the same time we love the treason, to hate the traitor.
Avoid, as much as possible, entering into any disputes or quarrels with your fellow-servants. Let not every trifle ruffle you, or occasion you to treat them with gratiog reflections, even though they should be the first aggressors. It is better to put up with a small affront, than, by returning it, provoke yet more, and raise a disturbance in the family. When quarrels in the kitchen are loud enough to be heard in the parlour, both parties are blamed, and it is not always that the innocent person finds the most protection,
If you live in a considerable family, where there are many men servants, you must be very circumspect in your behaviour to them. As they have in general little to do, they are for the most part very saucy and pert where they dare, and are apt to take liberties on the least encouragement. You must therefore carry yourself at a distance towards them, though not with a proud or prudish air. You must neither look as if you ihought yourself above them, nor seem as if you imagined every word they spoke intended as a design upon you. No: the one would make them hate and affront you; and the other would be turned into ridicule. On the contrary, you must behave with a civility mixed with seriousness; but on no account whatever suffer your civility to admit of too great familiarities.
If you live in a tradesman's family, where there are apprentices, your conduct to them must be of a different nature. If there be more than one, the elder must be treated with the most respect; but at the same time you must not behave to the others in a haughty or inperious manner. You must remember that they are servants only to become masters, and should therefore be treated not only with kindness but civility. It may in time be in their power to récompense any little favour you do them, such as mending their liuen, or other offices of that kind when you have a leisure hour; but this good nature inust not proceed too far as they advance in years, least the vanity of youth should make them imagine you have other motives for it, which, to prevent, you must behave with an open civility intermixed with a modest and serious reserve.
We subjoin a few observations with respect to religious duties, which must be considered as of more importance than all the preceding, because they respect the welfare of the soul.
Regularly attend public worship, whenever you have an opportunity, twice every Sunday, with seriousness and reverence. if ever you go home on that day, to visit your friends or take a walk with them, remeni ber that though the Sabbath is a day of rest, and of relaxation from business, it is also a day to be kept holy : and to be used, chiefly, in glorifying the great Creator, and Redeemer; and in preb paring ourselves for a better world, by prayer and meditation, by godly reading and conversation, and by a serious examination of our conduct, and the state of our minds, especially daring the week that has passed. What a piry, and what a shame it is, that any persons should ever make it a day of mere idle gossiping, and wandering about; or of loose talk and behaviour. At the same time, you must not, ender a pretence of keeping the Sabbath-day holy, refuse to do any necessary work; such as making fires and beds; dressing victuals for the family; milking cows; feeding catile; attending sick people, and young children. “The Sabbath was made for man,” says our blessed Saviour; ,“ pot man for the Sabbath." It was made to do good to men ; not to affict or punish them, or deprive thein of any real comfort. No work ought to be done on Sunday, which may as well be done on another day. Contrive to do as much as you properly can the day before, in order that you may have the less to do on the Sabbathday. Whenever you are prevented by sickness, or by any necessary employments, from attending the public worship of God, on the Lord's day, keep the day holy in the best manner your situation will allow. Pray to the Lord ; worship him in the secret of your own heart; meditate upon his holy word, even if you are not able to read it, or hear it read. “ Families," says an excellent lady, " may be so ordered, that every one may go to church in turns; and if there is any service in which this is not allowed, I would advise the servant of Christ to leave such a master, and to seek for one who fears God."
If you have an opportunity of attending family worship and instruction, be thankful for so great an advantage; and endeavour to improve from it. By your constant and willing attendance, show that you are desirous to give what encouragement you can to your masters and mistresses, to continue so excellent a practice. . · Neglect not private prayer. If you have not an opportunity of praying to your heavenly Father in secret (which most persons may contrive to have) be not ashamed, or afraid to kneel down, and pray, every morning, and every evening, in the presence of your fellow-servants, or of any one else; even if you should think they neglecț prayer themselves, and deride you for doing your duty. You stand much in need of divine assistance, to goide :you safely through all the sorrows, trials, and temptations, you must meet with in the world : and particularly to enable you to fulfil a Christian servant's duty, which is very important; and often, even in sober families, very difficult.Matthew Henderson, a servant, who was executed at Tyburn in the year 1746) for murder, sorrowfully owned, that he had long neglected private prayer : that he had forsaken God, and been a stranger at the throne of grace; and that, therefore, God had given him up unto his own heart's lust, and suffered him to follow his own imaginations; and that he had no help from above in the needful time of trouble and temptation.
Diligently read the Bible. Learn by heart, and treasure op in your memory, the texts in Scripture, especially the following, which teach a servant's duty: and rest not will, by divine assistance, you are able to observe the instructions, and to lay hold on the promises, contained in thein.
“ Servants, be obedient to them that are your inasters, according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ : not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; with good-will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men; knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free."-Ephes. vi. 5-8.
“ Servants obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing God. And whatsoever ve do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men : knowing that of the Lord, ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance; for ye serve the Lord Christ. But he that doth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons."-Col. iji. 22–25. .
“ Let as many servants as are under the yoke, count aheir own masters worthy of all honour, that ihe name of God, and his doctrine, be not blasphemed. And they that have believing masters, let them not despise them, because they are brethren; but rather do them service because they are faithful, and beloved partakers of the benefit."| Tin. vi. 1, 2.
“ Eshort servants to be obedient unto ibeir own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again; not purloining, but showing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour, in all things. For the grace of God that bringeth salvation, hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and world's : Insts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world.” Titus ii. 9-12.
"Servants be subject to your masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward. For this is thankwortby, if a man for conscience toward God,
endure grief, suffering wrongfully. For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffered for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God. For even hereunto were ye called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth : who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, be threatened not; but coinmitted himself to him that judgeth righteously; who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we being dead to sins, should live. unto righteousness.”—1 Peter ii. 18-24.
COOKERY IN ALL ITS BRANCHES. ALTHOUGH the following directions are principally addressed to servants, yet they will be found useful to all those, whether mistresses or servants, to whom the care of providing for a family is committed. In every rank, ihose deserve the greatest praise, who best acquit themselves of the duties which their station requires. Todeed, this line of conduct is not a matter of choice, but of necessity, if we would maintain the dignity of our character as rational beings.
In the variety of female acquirements, though domestic occupations stand not so high in esteein as they formerly did, yet, when neglected, they produce much human misery. There was a time when ladies knew nothing beyond their own family concerns; but in the present day there are many who know nothing about them. Each of these extremes should be avoided : but is there no way to unite, in the female character, cultivation of talents and habits of usefulness ? Happily there are still great numbers in every situation, whose example proves that this is possible. Instances may be found of ladies in the higber walks of life, who condescend to examine the accounts of their house-steward; and, by overlooking and wisely directing the expenditure of that part of their husband's income which falls under their own inspection, avoid the inconveniences of embarrassed circumstances. How much more necessary, then, is domestic knowledge in those whose limited fortunes press on their attention considerations of the strictest economy. There