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FEMALE INTREPIDITY. A merchant, the brother of a lady of distinguished birth and respectable condition, had the misfortune to suffer great losses, and to fail in his payments. His largest dealings were with a foreign nation, whose subjects were, of course, his principal creditors. The ambassador of that pation insisted upon payment of the whole; and sued hiin with the greatest rigour. The merchant, conscious of his inability to discharge the full amount of his debts, had no resource but in the Aexibility of the ambassador's disposition. The lady undertook the arduous task of waiting upon the ambassador: ånd, in order more strongly to excite his compassion, proposed that the daughters of her unfortunate brother should accompany her:“My dear pieces," said she, “ do not waste your tears at home; in vain you vent your sorrows here. Come with me, and let us try if the force of prayers and supplications cannot melt the heart of that upfeeling man, who seems to take delight in the ruin of your father. Dress yourselves suitably to your melancholy situation, and follow me.” .
This said, she håstened with her brother's children to the ambassador's palace; but what was her surprise and grief, when she was informed by the servants, that entrance was refused to her by their master's express order. A lady, accustomed to be treated with honour and respect by every person with whom she had any concern, could not but sensibly feel such a palpable affront. However, having once assumed the office of a petitioner, and engaged herself in such an interesting cause, her courage was not to be damped by a single rebuke. On the contrary, after repeated denials of admittance, she as constantly essayed to gain it. “ Perbaps,” said she, “his excellency is engaged in important affairs; I will respectfully wait the time of his going out." One of the children was so affected by this treatment, that she could no longer sustain the excess of her grief. Her sight and limbs failing her, she fell into a swoon at the palace gate. The affrighted aunt implored their humanity for some assistance to the unhappy child; but the domestics, in obedience to their master's commands, still refused · to take the least notice of her or her children. Exasperated at their cruehy, the lady ran to the guard of janissa ries, who were at that time upon duty; and, in the extravagance of her sorrow, cried out: “ Musselmen! O ye, whom the Christians call infidels! come to my assistance ;
help me to relieve this distressed child, who mušt otherwise die unpitied, in the midst of those barbarous Christians, who surround us, and refuse the aid of a drop of water to saccour the unfortunate infant. Come hither, O Musselinen; let us try if the voice of indignation, joined to the piercing accents of woe, can reach the man inaccessible to the complaints of the unfortunate. Let him at least know, that you are not like him, deaf to the cries of the afflicted.” ise
The janissaries flew to the lady's assistance. Her majestic deportment commanded their services. The gathering crowd reviled the domestics with the severest reproaches, till they could no longer resist ber importunities, but ran to procure some relief; while the doors of the palace flew open, as if by divine interposition. The ambassador himself, alarmed at the noise, and seeing a great mob assembled at bis gate, came out to enquire the cause. This courageous female sain nioned, at that moment, every idea that her just indigoation could suggest. The moving spectacle, which had roused every spark of sensibility, inspired her in such a degree, that she spoke the language of the soul in most energetic terms. She reproached hiin for the obduracy of his disposition, which could unmoved hear the complaints of the wretched, and that in terms so powerful, she roused at length the torpid feelings of his heart. What he denied to her supplications, he granted to the dignity of her miod.
ADVICE PREVIOUS TO MATRIMONY,
IF a young man make his addresses to you, or give you any reason to believe he will do so, before you allow your affections to be engaged, endeavour, in the most prudent and secret manner, to procure from your friends every vecessary piece of information concerning him; such as his character, as to his sense, his morality, bis religion, his cemper, and family, whether it be distinguished for parts and worth or for folly and knavery. When your friends inform you of these, they have fulfilled their duty; and it beboves you to hearken to their counsel, and to attend to their advice. .
Avoid a companion that may entail any hereditary disease on your posterity, particularly that most dreadful of all buman calamities, madness,' It is the height of improdence to run into such a danger; and, farther, it is highly criminal.
Do not marry a fool: he is the most untractable of all animals; he is led by his passions and caprices, and is incapable of hearing the voice of reason. It may probably hurt your vanity, to have a husband for whom you have reason to blush and tremble, every time he opens his lips in company.
A rake is ever to be avoided by a prudent woman; he always makes a suspicious husband, because he has only known the most worthless of your sex. He likewise entails the worst diseases on his wife and children, if he has the misfortune to have any. .
If you have a sense of religion yourself, do not think of a husband who has none. If you marry an infidel, or an irreligious character, what hope can you entertain of happiness? If you have children, you will suffer the most bitter distress, in seeing all your endeavours to form their minds to virtue and piety, all your endeavours to secure their present and eternal happiness, frustrated and turned into ridicule.
As the choice of a husband is of the greatest consequence to your happiness, be sure you make it with the utinost circumspection. Do not give way to a sudden sally of passion, and then dignify it with the name of love. "Genuine love is not founded in caprice; it is founded in nature, onhonourable views, on virtue, on siinilarity of tastes, and sympathy of souls.
If you have these sentiments, you will never marry any one when you are not in that situation which prudence suggests to be necessary to the happiness of either of you. What that competency may be, can only be determined by your own tastes: if you have as much between you as to satisfy all your demands, it is sufficient.
Marriage may dispel the enchantinent raised by external beauty; but the virtues and graces that first warmed the heart, may, and ought ever to remain. The tumult of passion will necessarily subside; but it will be succeeded by an endearment that affects the heart in a more equal, a more sensible and tender manner.
To the neglect of such considerations as these, may be traced the cause of most unhappy connections of this kind; and to this idea we are indebted for the following verses by the celebrated Watts :
love and then digdiinot give wa, nake it wi honour not founded ify it with way to a suddrith the
FEW HAPPY MATCHES.
Say, mighty Love, and teach my song,
' And who the happy pairs,
To soften all their cares ?
Not the wild herd of nymphs and swains,
As custom leads the way :
Not sordid souls of earthly mould,
To dull embraces move: .
And make a world of love. ..
Not the mad tribe that heil inspires i. .
The purer bliss destroy: ial" in
Tinprove the burning joy. .
"Nor the dull pairs whose marble forms
Can mingle hearts and hands :
With osiers for their bands.
Nor can the soft enchantinents hold in
The rugged and the keen :
With firebrands tied between...
For love abhors the sight:
Rise and forbid delight...
And feeds their mutual loves :
Is drawn by gentlest birds alone,
situation from the info charactens connectether, or eveather, ayer the conduce for two peronstantly toget
DUTIES OF MARRIED WOMEN. AMONG the most important of the duties peculiar to the situation of a married woman, are to be ranked those arising from the influence which she will naturally possess over the conduct and character of her husband. If it be scarcely possible for two persons connected by the ties of common friendship, to live constantly together, or even habitually to pass much time in the society of each other, without gradually approaching nearer and nearer in their sentiments and habits; still less probable is it, that from the closest and most attractive of all bands of union a similar effect should not be the result. The effect will be experienced by both parties, and perhaps in an equal degree. But if it be felt by one in a greater degree than by the other, it seems likely to be thus felt by the husband. In female manners inspired by affection, and bearing al once the stamp of modesty and of good sense, example operates with a captivating force which few bosoms can resist. When the heart is won, the judgment is easily persuaded. It waits not for the slow process of argument to