The Verbally Abusive Relationship

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Adams Media Corporation, 1996 - Psychology - 224 pages
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In this fully expanded and updated second edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse--and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior--from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.

Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse--and the abuser.

This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

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I was moderator for a support group on the net for targets of verbal abuse for approximately seven years. I, of course, promoted The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Evans because members swore it was a Godsend.
At the same time, internally I had reservations because Evans referred to verbal abusers as "dragons" and made them sound like monsters. Despite having been in a verbally abusive relationship myself, I thought, "Surely, no human being could be /that/ bad."
What I've since discovered by being trapped in an area with a group of them including who wear badges is: the abuse is not random. And it's not just you, or a family member, or coworker or friend being abused. There aren't just a few of the abusers here and there, but rather, they are a /movement/ that's taken over regions of the United States.
They are otherwise known as /fascists/, and though, Evans does provide good tips on how to deal with a fascist one on one, hopefully, she will come up with tips on where or who to go to as a nation to put an end to them taking over.
On that note, in retrospect, Evans' description nails them. They truly are evil, hateful, cruel dragons.


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About the author (1996)

Patricia Evans is the bestselling author of four books, including The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, Controlling People, and The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change? A highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant, Evans has appeared on Oprah, CNN, CBS News, Fox News, She Knows, and on numerous national radio programs. Her work has been featured in Shape, Newsweek, and O, The Oprah Magazine. Evans lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and can be reached via her website at

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