Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

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Simon and Schuster, Feb 1, 2003 - Psychology - 352 pages
Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation.

Does this sound like someone you know?

*Always needs to be right
*Tells you who you are and what you think
*Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree
*Is threatened by people who are “different”
*Feels attacked when questioned
*Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you

If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.

Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author.

By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.

Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.
 

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User Review  - GlennBell - LibraryThing

I liked the first sections of the book but believe the author went beyond her experise toward the end of the book. Patricia makes some excellent points about mental expectations of others and the ... Read full review

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User Review  - gretsker - LibraryThing

This book is very helpful for understanding the process of certain people to gain control over others and what drives them to do it. While visible abuse which violates a person's physical boundaries ... Read full review

Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
PART I
CHAPTER II
Intentions
Beside Yourself
Training Trying and Trauma
Built Backwards
Pretending and Its Impact
The Spell
The Control Connection
PART II
Signs of Separateness
Fear
Confabulation
One Mind and the Conformity Connection
Perpetuated and Institutionalized

Backwards Approaches
The Teddy Illusion
PART IV
Copyright

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Patricia Evans is the bestselling author of four books, including The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, Controlling People, and The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change? A highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant, Evans has appeared on Oprah, CNN, CBS News, Fox News, She Knows, and on numerous national radio programs. Her work has been featured in Shape, Newsweek, and O, The Oprah Magazine. Evans lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and can be reached via her website at VerbalAbuse.com.

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